Puppy Play, both in my experience and my observation of the experiences of others engaged in the world of the Human Puppy’s and their Handlers; seems to exist at the intersection of a multitude of kinks and communities. I’ve been working on just how to dive into this topic for a while now, and I think the best way for me to do this is through the lens of my own kink journey.

Back to the Beginning

Back in 2017 I embarked on my journey into Kink. At the time, I remember being somewhat overwhelmed… the Leather world seemed HOT but prohibitively expensive to jump into, I hadn’t quite wrapped my mind around Rubber just yet, Bondage was both exciting and anxiety inducing, and I was filled with blind certitude that I would certainly NOT be “into” anything in the realm of impact play, ABDL, and watersports (just to name a few). Don’t worry, we’ll come back to that.

One particular kink stood out to me though… late in the previous year I’d begun to see posts from one of my Tumblr crushes (RIP Tumblr), wearing a neoprene Pup hood; and that just struck a chord so deep inside me I had no idea what part of me was being tickled or why these particular images really spoke to me.

In those early months, as my curiosity built I found myself beginning to search out more Puppy Play related content. I remember one day, finding the cutest video with a couple of Human Pups moshing and playing with squeaky toys… it looked so incredibly fun, and I wanted to be a part of that. At the same time, I had a very deep seated sense of anxiety… my husband and I hadn’t really ever talked much about fetishes or kinks… but I knew I had to talk to him about it before just going about getting into it.

Coming Out as Kinky

One day, I finally worked up the courage to bring up my curiosities in Puppy Play. I remember being incredibly anxious, and timidly bringing up the subject of a thing I was curious about… I remember sort of skirting the issue, before finally explicitly defining it at Puppy Play. My husband, to my relief, was incredibly supportive! Coming out as Kinky to him, lead to even more discussion about his interest in leather as well; and paved the way for what would be more conversations about Kinks and Fetishes in the future.

At that time, I was still just very curious to try things out… and I was also a Gay Man in his Mid 30’s who had NEVER purchased a butt toy! However, with my growing interest in Pup Play, not to mention a growing hunger to bottom more… I found myself wanting to purchase my first butt plug, and I wanted that first one to be a Pup Tail.

About a month later, I had finally ordered and received my first tail plug. A square-peg tail, purchased from Mr-S-Leather… being a less experienced bottom and nervous about sizing, I had decided to order a Small after checking out a variety of size options while visiting my local shop; Doghouse Leathers.

This… was a good decision, but also one that would be a short-lived tail of choice… as I would discover in a short time, the small is fun and easy to put in, but my tail hole was much too hungry for that; and I would eventually upgrade to a Medium.

I still remember my first time… successfully… playing with my tail plug. Yeah, the first two times I tried weren’t successful… at all! Having been so inexperienced with butt toys, my body wanted to reject the toy immediately… in time I would learn about breathing exercises, better lubes, and most importantly: PATIENCE!

That first successful time though… I had a day home alone, put on a movie, and started lubing up my hole. With a fresh bottle of poppers handy, and a large bottle of lube, I patiently began playing with my hole. Little by little, easing the plug deeper and deeper. The first time the plug sank in, I had an immediate reaction to remove it… it felt like my hole rejecting the plug. However, I was incredibly determined to enjoy my tail. So, after allowing my hole some time to relax, I went back to work with more lube and more poppers… and soon, my tail plug was happily seated (and my bone was leaking like a broken faucet). I remember spending about 40 minutes with my tail in that day… I spent that time wagging, pawing, and just thoroughly enjoying myself; and that was it, the moment that I realized that I wanted to find out what it would be like to get even deeper into Puppy Play.

Pouncing Into Puppy

In a fortuitous turn of events, shortly after my first tail-time session I had a chance meeting with a Human Puppy couple. I was at a mutual friends Birthday Dinner, and two other rather attractive men were the other guests… and I couldn’t help but notice the thick chains and name tags hanging around their necks. As the evening wore on and we’d all broken the proverbial social ice; I decided that I had a potential opportunity sitting next to me, and I wasn’t about to let it pass me by. So I asked them about their collars… and the answer I got back was exactly what I was hoping for; they were Human Puppies.

Yeah, it was obvious… even to me at the time… but I asked rather than assumed, because you never know; also, asking is polite.

That Birthday Dinner was the first time I met Gadget and his partner Fizzgig; and that chance meeting would, in a few weeks time, lead to an invitation to have my first Pup experience. I was so nervous that first time, going over to their home for a Pup session… almost shaking. In no time, however, Gadget had calmed my nerves and they lead me downstairs to the space where they have their Pup & Play space set up; and it literally blew my mind!

That first time, walking into their play area… seeing a large space with play mats for protection, a sling hanging from the rafters just next to the mats, a table with a variety of useful things for play times (lube, poppers & such)… I’d never been in a kink dungeon before; and this was all kinds of exciting and intimidating all at once! It didn’t take much for me to be calmed right down, I remember a lot of direct eye contact and my head rubs… my clothes slowly removed one piece at a time, before asking if I’d like to try a hood on.

Quick aside: My introduction to Puppy Play was in a sexually charged atmosphere… but I want EVERYONE to know that Puppy Play doesn’t HAVE to be sexual at all! It can be whatever works for you on a spectrum ranging from 100% asexual to 100% sexual… only YOU can define what Puppy is to you.

I was immediately excited! I had been dying to try a hood on, but until this moment didn’t know anyone who could help me with that. I eagerly agreed, and he brought over his older leather hood. I remember the smell… leather with a hint of sweat, it smelled so good. He carefully placed the hood on my head, pulling it slowly down over my eyes. As my eyesight was blocked, I started to feel a shift in my head… something was changing, but I wasn’t sure what to make of it… and then the eye holes slid into place and I could see; but the altered view from inside the hood seemed somehow different from before.

Next, I remember the feeling as Gadget carefully tightened the hood on my head, pulling it as snug as I was comfortable with before tying it on. Then he gave me head scritches… and I almost melted; who could’ve guessed that this would feel so good! After that, the memory get’s hazy… I remember being put on all fours, I remember bits and pieces of pupping around on the mats with Fizzgig; sniffing butts, playing with toys, humping… and of course some bone sucking. Then suddenly, covered in sweat and breathing much harder than I would’ve expected, the play scene on the mats came to an end.

As the hood came off my head, I remember feeling both exhausted and refreshed at the same time… mentally more refreshed than I’d felt in a long long time. Later, I would come to learn that I had experienced a bit of headspace during that first session… and it absolutely sold me on Puppy Play, I knew I needed this in my life and I decided then and there that this moment would be just the beginning.

Even my first experience as a Pup, while grounded in and built around the world of Human Puppy Play; it still included elements from the BDSM & Leather Kink and Fetish world as a part of that… and it wouldn’t stop there.

The Journey Continues

Over the next couple of months, I would begin to dive deeper and deeper into the world of Human Puppies and their Handlers; and I would begin to see and be exposed to the seemingly limitless and unique ways that individuals express and enjoy their kinky selves.

The very next intersection I would experience with Puppy Play would come in the form of combining Puppy Play with various forms of BDSM play. Over the next few years I would find myself experiencing (and loving) being strapped into a sling, chained to ceilings, flogged, spanked, blindfolded, put into chastity and engaging in a variety of power play dynamics.

Now, perhaps you’re having trouble seeing how that becomes an intersection… well, for me (remember, this is from my perspective & experiences) when I’m strapped into a sling with my hood on and my paws in mitts being spit roasted by two other pups… I don’t feel at all like my human self, and feel entirely like my human puppy self… growls and grunts are what escape my muzzle, puppy headspace is pushed to a deeper level, and when a bone isn’t buried in my tail hole my tail starts wagging, begging for another bone.

While I would be exploring my newfound excitement and enthusiasm for BDSM play, I also began to meet new people and make more friends in the local Pup & Handler community… a community which includes many more expressions besides Human Puppies and their Handlers. Going out to events, I found myself surrounded by all manner of kinksters & fetishists… ABDL players in their padding (diapers, if you’re not familiar with the lingo), Rubber people, Leather people, Furries, Sports and Military Gear Heads; the list goes on. What many of these people all had in common, was that many of them were also expressing themselves as Pups!

To be perfectly honest, it was pretty overwhelming at first… and I sometimes found myself dismissing something, thinking I wouldn’t be into it; when really I was just so overwhelmed at the newness of all of it, that I hadn’t yet processed any of it. Over time, I would learn to stop assuming even my own level of interest in a kink/fetish that was new to me; until I had tried it once or twice (twice is better) and really decided if it was or wasn’t something I’d like to continue engaging in.

Over the years, I’ve had a lot of opportunities to meet and get to know Pups from all over; each of them with their own interests in life, kink, and fetish… and each of them with their own unique expression of their Puppy self. Getting to know these pups, and even forming friendships with them has opened my eyes to the wider world of Kink; and helped me to continue diving into my own interests and finding out what I really am into (and sometimes not into).

Where Puppy Intersects

Two of the people who’ve had the most influence on me have been my Husband Tease, and my Pup Brother Blitz. Exploring things together with each of them has shown me which Kinks and Fetishes are my core interests. The primary intersections of Kink for me are ABDL & BDSM. Now those Kinks are, in themselves, two very big worlds; so let’s get specific.

Most recently, I’ve explored and embraced my interest in the ABDL Kink. My ABDL interests include engaging as a Little (age regression), a Big/Middle (care taking of littler littles), and in Diapers (wearing and putting others in them). Very early on in my journey into Puppy, I expressed that I felt my inner Pup connected with who I was at around age 10… yet somehow I failed to make the connection between that and a possible interest in ABDL.

Over the past two and a half years coming to know and grow closer with my Pup Brother Blitz, who is also an ABDL player and self described “Diaper Pup,” I spent a lot of time around various people who were all engaging in ABDL play. Seeing first-hand what Littleing does for my Brother, and how much he enjoyed his Padding; well, I became incredibly curious… and started to feel drawn to exploring that curiosity… and when I finally did explore Littleing for the first time, it was as Farrstrider… Farrstrider, in part, does connect with a younger me and it just feels natural that my ABDL expression would be one facet of my Pup expression.

As for BDSM, there are so many aspects to this Kink that speak to me, which is why I’ve grouped them all together. My engagement in BDSM includes Power Play, Bondage, Discipline, a number of fetish related engagements I consider a part of my BDSM identity including Watersports, Impact Play, Sensory Deprivation… and more things than I should try to list (this isn’t a listicle… it’s a blog… lol). All of these interests, are things I explore as a facet of my expression of Puppy… for me, Puppy was my gateway into the rest of the world of Kink and seems to be the lens through which I feel most comfortable and free to explore and experience the wider world of Kink and Fetish.

Speaking of Fetishes… there’s a couple of fetishes that I often also intersect with my expression of Puppy, but not so exclusively. They are the few fetishes that I explored before finding my way into Kink as a Pup. Military Gear, Sports Gear, Tighty Whities and Jockstraps… *drools*

These four fetishes, I particularly LOVE to explore and express while also enjoying myself as a Pup… but not exclusively. I’ve also enjoyed exploring and expressing those strictly as a human… though, the longer I’ve been a Pup the less often I explore even my fetishes without also expressing myself as a Pup. Which is why I’ve included them in our discussion today. These fetishes, particularly the Military Gear fetish, have all influenced my expression and identity of Pup… and that’s often why you’ll see Farrstrider sporting around in one or more of these clothing items (pun-intended).

Puppy As The Intersection

OK, great… so a lot of people are mixing their kinks/fetishes with their Pup identities/expressions; how does that make Puppy Play “The Intersection” of Kink?

This is where observation comes into play… and remember, this is from my perspective; maybe yours is different, and that’s OK. But, when I look around to the different Kink Communities around the globe… I see lots of Leather and Rubber and ABDL groups (to pick on what I consider the “Big 3”); and while I do occasionally see a mix of Kinks within those groups, looking specifically at those groups those expressing multiple Kinks seem to be more of the minority.

In contrast, when I look at the Human Puppy community the world over; everywhere I look I see an intersection of Kinks… I see Pups in Leather, Rubber, Diapers, and often a mix of more than just any one of those Kinks with their expression of Pup.

To boil it down… Puppy Play (from my point of view) seems to form the base upon which each individual seasons their expression with a bit of this and a pinch of that from other Kinks and Fetishes… a direct result of the open-ended approach of Puppy Play to be an individually defined Kink; and that individuality is one of the reasons I love this community so much. *wags*

I’d love to hear your thoughts on Puppy Play as The Intersection of Kink (and fetish). Do you see Puppy Play as the intersection for yourself? Do your Kinks intersect? Whatever your thoughts, I’d love to know! Comment down below, or email them to askpupper@gmail.com and just maybe your thoughts will end up on an episode of the Farrstrider Podcast.