Before we get started
Nope, I’m not here to define your relationship(s) or pigeon hole anyone... this is, yet again, me expressing my point of view based on my own approach & experiences. Today’s subject is: Pup Brothers!
I'd like to point out, that though I'm using the term Brother; this is not a relationship limited to those who identify as male. Pup Siblings might be a better community term, however, as I write from my own experiences I'll be using the term Brother. Just know, that whether you identify as male, female, non-binary or any other color of human identity & expression; you can have a sibling relationship too!
What is a Pup Brother?
Well, that's a very good question! There are all kinds of Human Puppy relationships, and no two are the same. Pup Brothers, similarly, come in all shapes and sizes with their own unique interactions.
To me, a Pup Brother is a very special relationship. The bond I share with my Pup Brother is organic and very strong. It's something more than Best Friends; a unique relationship in that I consider my Brother to be part of my family. It's hard to put into words, just how strong this bond is... and because regular descriptors don't accurately describe the nature of the Brotherly bond we share... unless maybe you have a bio-sibling, though, even that's not quite the same.
My Alpha has several Pup Brothers, however, his aren't local to him; they live far and wide! But, you wouldn't know that when you see them together. The depth of the bond he has with his Brothers is instantly apparent when they get an opportunity to spend time together... in fact, you wouldn't even begin to guess that they don't hang out all the time!
So, answering the question of what is a Pup Brother is something difficult... even just from the example of me and my Alpha; we both have very different relationships with our brothers... the common thread being the unshakable bond shared. Pup Brothers (or whatever gender siblings) are going to be unique to each relationship... as with many things Pup; there really is no wrong or right way to have a Brother... it's just something that is!
OK, so.... how do you become Pup Brothers?
I've been asked variations of this a LOT... whether people are asking how to find a Brother like mine... or an Alpha... or another kind of relationship; and the answer to that is really the same! Like any relationship it takes time, effort and mutual interest. Not all sibling relationships are the same, so each one will be a little different.
One thing I notice a lot, not strictly in the kink community, is that a lot of people are so desperate to form relationships that they try to force them. You wouldn't believe how many times I've had a random message out of the blue from someone I don't even know, who wants to jump immediately into some kind of serious relationship from the get-go! Be it a Dom-Sub relationship or something else... and sometimes they just don't take no for an answer... continually trying to force the relationship to happen. I've had everything from pushy offers from people wanting to be my Master, to pushy subs wanting to be mine in one way or another. Don't get me wrong... I'm flattered. But, entering into a serious relationship isn't something that should be taken lightly, off the cuff or on a whim.
There needs to be time taken to get to know each other and allow things to develop in their own way. Allowing relationships to develop organically is key to building a good lasting connection.
Don't get me wrong... I'm flattered. But, entering into a serious relationship isn't something that should be taken lightly, off the cuff or on a whim. There needs to be time taken to get to know each other and allow things to develop in their own way. Allowing relationships to develop organically is key to building a good lasting connection.
And that's where the answer lies... you can't really go in with the intention of: "I'm gonna make this puppy my brother." It doesn't work like that. You just have to go in saying: "I wanna get to know this puppy" and let life take its course. If things are right, you'll know... and eventually you'll have a conversation... and that conversation is IMPORTANT! Just as with any Kink relationship, it's important to define your expectations and limits to your partners... it's one of the most important parts of starting a relationship like that. I like to use reading analogies for this:
If you're all reading the same book, but you're on different pages then you might as well be reading different books.
OK, so... why Brothers?
Honestly, if it's something you want in your life... then you may want to be open to it. For me, I was first intrigued when I saw my Alpha with his Brother Bowen at Camp K9 in 2017. He hadn't known his Brother was going to be there, and it was an incredible surprise to run into him! Seeing the two of them pick up their relationship as if they'd never been apart was incredible to witness! I was so inspired, and I thought to myself: I'd like something like that one day!
Little did I know, I was about to meet my first (currently only) Brother that weekend! Later on that same day, I was hanging out with my Alpha and my Sir when I got a tap on the shoulder. A very handsome Leather Sir had his arm around a very cute boy who had just turned bright red. The Sir told me that this Puppy was very interested in meeting me, so I introduced myself. Turns out, it was Blitz! I'd been chatting with him online for a while at that point, but with how many people were at camp I wasn't sure I'd get to run into him... and boy was I glad I did!
That's how it started for me... conversation on social platforms followed by a simple introduction. We spent some time hanging out, I introduced him to my Alpha and Sir whom he also recognized from social media; and we got to spend some time together pupping at the Black Light Party that night!
After Camp, we kept in contact and got another chance to hang out at the SEA-PAH Socials the next two months. Having hit it off, we planned a get together as well. Our first get together was a lot of fun... just a bit of a private mosh, complete with playful naughtiness *wags*. From there, we began to hang out more and more... he met my Husband at another SEA-PAH social, and as the winter went on we all hung out more. Soon, it became clear that there was more than friendship between us; and we had a discussion about that.
What I was feeling for him was something new and different... and he was feeling similarly as well. We discussed being Pup Brothers and I explained to him what that meant to me and he told me what it would mean to him. Turns out, we're a great match! We spent the time, and put in the effort to build a great friendship and it grew into something more; Brotherhood. And that, is how you find a Pup Brother... it's not something you need to actively seek, it's something that will grow in its own way and in its own time.
But... Your A Big Brother?
As I mentioned, several times... each relationship is going to be unique in its own way. Even my Alpha doesn't quite have a brother relationship like mine. In mine, we have a bit of a Dom/Sub dynamic mixed in. I'm older, and we have a very obvious Big Brother / Little Brother connection. It works really well for us and has allowed us to explore a variety of kink & fetish situations that other Brothers might not enjoy together.
In some ways... being a Big Brother is similar to being an Alpha... but in a lot of ways it's NOT. I get very protective of my Little Brother... like any Big Brother I want him to be happy! Think of it... like comparing a bio-sibling to a bio-parent... the older sibling is often given more responsibilities; even authority over the younger sibling... but it's not the same as being the parent.
Brother All About It
Well, that seems to sum up my thoughts on Pup Brothers. I personally consider this to be a significant relationship... something more than friendship and unique in its expression! So, how about all of you? Do any of YOU have kink-siblings or other familial relationships in your kink lives? I'd love to hear about them! Bark at me in the comments below, or on any of the social media spaces!
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